Seven dads from our community relate an ideal Father’s Day–in their own words.
In 1978, Father’s Day became a nationwide holiday in the U.S., which was only a mere 58 years after President Woodrow Wilson made Mother’s Day an official holiday. Why did it take so long? As one historian put it, they “scoffed at the holiday’s sentimental attempts to domesticate manliness with flowers and gift-giving, or they derided the proliferation of such holidays as a commercial gimmick to sell more products–often paid for by the father himself.”
So exactly how do dads want to be celebrated? I asked six pops to describe their ideal Father’s Day by answering three questions:
1.What would you eat?
2.What would you do?
3.What would you want?
I was so certain of the answers these men would give that I wondered, “Why even bother with the interviews?” Well, I was way off and I learned something very valuable: men and women are entirely different creatures! I hope I am never asked this question anytime soon. My ideal Mother’s Day? Let’s just say that it has a lot more to do with alone time and an embarrassing amount of chocolate and cheese than it does family time and a home-cooked meal.
Al De La Cruz
Age 45, three children, information systems manager at Cookietree Inc., loves to ride the trails in Draper and watch The Amazing Race with his wife
1. I would eat a delicious pan-seared rib-eye steak with a side of baked potatoes. 2. I would sleep in until I was served breakfast in bed and watch movies with my family in our PJ’s. 3. Gifts of BYU paraphernalia to complete my man cave would be on my wishlist.
David Jack, M.D.
Age 63, five children, one granddaughter, family medicine physician, enjoys golf, harmonica, trumpet, dabbling in eclectic courses such as quantum physics and religious history
1. My favorite meal would start with a shrimp cocktail, followed by a main course of turkey, green beans and spaghetti squash. Guava juice would be the perfect beverage, followed by a low fat cream cheese cake topped with cherries, an item that my wife is an expert in making (we try to eat very healthy).
2. A family golf game is my dream activity. My whole family is now taking golf lessons, so we do not get too excited if we miss a shot on the golf course. We enjoy being outdoors, and I find that it now gives me more pleasure to see one of my children hit a good golf shot than it does to hit one myself!
3. The best gifts are letters and cards, with handwritten thoughts and remembrances. A little personal pampering is nice as well, such as some air popped popcorn, a promise to mow the lawn, or a coupon good for future hugs or housecleaning. Also, a demonstration of respect and consideration for the grandfathers is heartwarming.
Age 85, six children, 16 grandchildren, nine great-grandchildren, retired, enjoys gardening, managing the farms and playing the stock market
1. I’d love a nice ham, baked potatoes, salad (my daughter Janice’s homemade), a frosty glass of milk to drink and huckleberry pie a la mode, of course.
2. I would have all of my family over. We would sit around and tell stories and talk about what is going on in their lives.
3. I just want everyone to be healthy. (“He’s not big into gifts,” chimed in his wife, Alice.) Ballard responded: I don’t need gifts. Health is the best gift!
Age 53, two children, six grandchildren, owner of Chuck’s Service Center, enjoys going to Wendover. “Any and all casinos I love!”
1. I would eat my wife’s homemade pizza. Ohhh, I can smell it already when I walk in the door. It is delicious.
2. I would spend the day with my wife, two kids and grandchildren, having tea parties and swimming in our pool.
3. I would want to take them to Disneyland or some theme park. It would be a blast. No one can put a smile on my face faster than my grandkids. They just melt my heart, those little squirts.
Age 25, one newborn baby, parts manager at Jackson Group Peter Bilt, enjoys hunting, fishing, camping, watching sports, hiking and reading
1. I would eat New York Strip Steak, a loaded baked potato and broccoli. Brownie cheesecake would definitely be on the menu!
2. I would spend the day four-wheeling with my wife and daughter.
3. Dream gift–a Polaris Razor 1000 side by side.
Age 48 years, two wonderful daughters, insurance sales, enjoys riding his bike
1. I would eat Carne Ranchera, with all the fixins’!
2. I would spend some time with my daughters, which I always enjoy. We would all go to my dad’s house for dinner and then perhaps me and the old guy could go for an easy bike ride together.
3. I would want a new tie that would match my new bike!
Michael Kalani Wilson
Age 40, six children, Business Owner, enjoys coaching his kids in his spare time
1. I would eat Spam Rice and Eggs.
2. I would play a mean game of Piccolo ball at the park with my family.
3. I want a pedicure from my kids and massage from my wife.